How To Get Her To Dress Better

Agent Provocateur

• What You Need To Know
• You'll never get her to completely change her style.
• She'll dress sexier only if she's comfortable in what she's wearing.
• Make sure to compliment her once she tries something new.

"Let her know she is the hottest thing since the sun and that you love seeing her look sexy."

She was hot to trot when you met her: tight jeans and body-hugging tank. Now a few years have passed, and she’s wearing sweats and baggy T-shirts. Or perhaps she was always clad the way she is now, and you just wish she would try something different. What’s a guy to do? You still love her, just not her look. So how do you coax her to change her wardrobe without hurting her feelings or seeming like a boor?

Think You Can Change Her?

First and foremost, you cannot change who she is. She is the same person you fell in love with, and unexpectedly asking her to change isn’t fair. If she’s a tomboy at heart, she’s not going to suddenly don heels, and you shouldn’t expect her to do so. On the flip side, many men want a woman who dresses sexily to suddenly wear more conservative attire because they’re in a relationship. Not going to happen (unless you’re the abusive, controlling type, and that’s a different situation altogether). You cannot fundamentally change a person. Period.

But if you believe she’s open to change, give her some encouragement. There are a myriad of reasons for how women choose to dress: to express themselves, to hide something, because they’re insecure, because they’re very secure, etc. If she’s afraid of wearing body-conscious clothes or sexy lingerie, she may not be comfortable being perceived as a sexual object or she may have body issues.

You have to realize this isn't going to happen overnight.

Start Slowly

Let her know that she is the hottest thing since the sun and that you love seeing her look sexy. Buy her something you find alluring but not over the top. For example, if she’s a complete tomboy, don’t ask her to wear a tight-fitting, low-cut dress. Start off by suggesting she wear skinny jeans and a loose-fitting scoop-neck tank. If she’s good with jeans but not so much with dresses, propose a knee-length, form-fitting number, like a strapless pencil dress. In other words, don’t go from 0 to 60. Get her to dress sexier in increments. If you need help, pick up a fashion magazine like Cosmopolitan or Glamour -- stay away from the high-end Vogue -- for some ideas. Or better yet, go to a chic but low-key store like Banana Republic, Express or even a department store like Nordstrom, and ask the salesgirl for a little help.